IT’S HARD TO SAY NO WHEN YOU DON’T KNOW YOUR YES

Are you one of those people that has a hard time saying no?

You go to parties you really don’t want to attend with people you really don’t like and talk about things that really don’t interest you.  You end up resenting it the whole time. Then you are mad at yourself for not saying “no”.

You never have a day off. Your family feels neglected while you try to help everyone else. Feeling exhausted, you are becoming burnt out and bitter. Sound familiar?

Your problem is not with saying “no”. It’s that you aren’t clear about your “yes”.

Getting clear about your yeses will make it easier to say “no”. “I have another commitment at that time” is different than making up an excuse or ghosting someone. You will choose your life or it will be chosen for you.

I’m talking Sunday about boundaries. Having good boundaries starts with knowing your yeses and then learning to say no.

As a yes man myself who hates to pass up an opportunity or let anyone down, this learning has been an essential and growing part of my health and well being. If you know someone who struggles to set good boundaries, bring them to Mountain View Church this Sunday. It will probably be easy because they don’t know how to say no either. -TR